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DIVORCE
What may be the cause of a Divorce - lack of understanding, excessive fighting, extra-marital affairs, lack of intimacy, lack of communication, children issues, unresolved conflicts.... The list goes on and on.
CAUSES OF A DIVORCE
- The failure of marriage may be attributed to the inconsistency among couples in communicating and interacting with one another both physically and emotionally.
- Couples tend to hate each other when they do not compromise on each other's mistakes. This often leads to unhappy marriages and even results to divorce.
- Adultery is one reason why a marriage can lead to a divorce.
- Adultery is an act of abuse, damaging both the emotional and physical aspect of the relationship.It has been seen that the involvement of a spouse in an adulterous affair could trigger the separation and the spouse has a legal chance to file for divorce cases.
- There are times that even when the couple lives together, the lack of love and affection triggers a couple in conflicts and physical abuse, which leads to divorce.
HOW TO AVOID DIVORCE
- A couple must deal on all conflicting issues. They should talk about their problems and be open to one another's opinion. In this way, the couple may find ways to resolve the problem.
- Couples who want to prevent divorce should find ways to have some moments where they can spend time and evaluate their emotions. Think about what went wrong in your relationship.
- Make the relationship work as the best of friends instead of just being partners. Be each other's friends and try to sort things out amicably.Friends do have disagreements,but the trick lies in overcoming the hurdles.
- Learn how to accept any disappointments and failures in the relationship.
- It is important to take care of ones physical appearance and health. Staying beautiful and handsome can spice up the relationship most of the time. Don't take yourself for granted , otherwise your spouse will also start taking you for granted.Looks do matter.
- Couples should be faithful and honest to one another. To make a long lasting marriage there must be fidelity and honesty in the relationship. They should not tell lies or hide anything from each other.
- Give space to eachother, don't let your partner feel suffocated in the relationship.
- Always remember that couples are bound together because of love. Remember that family is very important. You have built your relationship with so much of caring and sharing, don't blow it all in a moment by divorcing.
- Trust each other immensely and be sensitive to each other's problems.
- Never shout at each other while arguing. Explain things properly and try to understand the other's point of view.
- Try to work out things atleast for the sake of children.
- Try to forgive and forget eachother's mistakes.
WHAT TO DO AFTER A DIVORCE
- But once you have divorced your spouse , learn to deal with it. When divorce becomes inevitable, try to cope up with the following problems effectively :
- Forget the past. Start life afresh.
- Divert your mind to other activities so that you may not think too much about it. Try watching T.V, shopping, going out with family and friends.
- Don't rush into another relationship, just because you are all alone.
- Take your own time and discover love again.
- Don't have bitter feelings about love. If you fail in a relationship, it does not mean the end of the world. Be open to the idea of meeting new people.
- If you have children, deal with the responsibilities of a single parent with courage.
- Do not be angry or bitter towards the children just because you are tensed. Treat them with love and be more caring towards them.
- Help them in their school homework and assignments. Remember you are their father and mother both.
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